Life consists of days.
What we do during our typical days is what becomes of our life.
Our incredible moments, our unforgettable days, and our favorite memories are all crafted from days of mundane normalcy.
Spectacular days do not just happen. They are the result of days of practice, diligence, and training.
Life is one big positive feedback cycle.
If you are living a life of poor habits, your future will continue to look like your present.
If you blame others for your situation without taking responsibility for your situation, then your life will remain the same.
Everything that happens to us is our responsibility to deal with, even if it’s not our fault. Every action we take is something that we choose.
Be who you want to be.
The person you want to be is not some distant or unattainable version of you.
Everything you need is already inside you.
On the first day of being who you want to be, you will mess up. On the second day, you’ll still mess up. On the third day, you will mess up, but maybe a little less frequently.
Practice being the version of yourself that you want to be, and persist. Especially after you mess up.
Be intentional with your actions.
People live their lives on autopilot, repeating patterns that were formed in childhood. Ed Mylett said it best:
“People operate out of memory and history instead of imagination and vision.
Are you intentional with your time and energy, or are you just repeating the patterns that other people enforced on you?
After all, the person you are now was not completely your choice — your parents and environment growing up had a big influence.
However, the only person who determines who you will be in the future is your present self.
You are solely responsible for the words you speak and the actions you take.
Align your actions with your intent.
Instead of letting other people define what your life looks like, question if your recent actions are aligned with who you desire to be.
Many people look in the past for answers, focusing on why they are the way that they are. And once they figure it out (a narcissistic parent, conditional love, abuse), they use these experiences to justify their actions in the present.
Instead of letting your trauma define you, look forward and envision who you want to become. Then take a step toward that version of yourself every day.
The only thing in between who we are now and the dream version of ourselves is what we do in between now and then.
The thoughts we think, the words we speak, and the actions we take will ultimately define who we become.
Today, whether you like it or not, you are reinforcing a certain version of yourself.
The actions you take today can be a step toward your goals, or you could remain where you are now. The words you speak today can be a step in the right direction for becoming your best self, or you can avoid discomfort and stay the same.
Either way, the choice is yours.